Hate

First let’s define it:

Hate
1 a: intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from fear, anger, or sense of injury b: extreme dislike or antipathy
2: an object of hatred

Hate, such a powerful and strong word, yet it’s only 4 letters long.
Hate, such an emotional and effective word, yet it’s only one syllable.

It’s amazing how much damage hatred can cause (look at the Middle East). Really what’s the point of hate? What do you get out of hating someone or something? What is the end result of hate? If hate derives from fear and anger than just take ownership to those emotions, don’t take it out on someone/something else. The only thing hate causes is your own turmoil and loss. Learn to accept things for what they are. Learn to accept people for who they are. And maybe we can disagree, dislike, envy, be jealous, or even simply not care…but why must we hate!

The one thing I hate more than the word hate is people accepting hate and excusing it, as if there’s any justification for hating. What a wasteful emotion! Actually, I believe it’s more an attitude than an emotion. We choose to hate one another, or groups, or objects. We can also choose to get over it. Let go of the hate and embrace the world.

Before I go, let me leave you with this:
Love thy neighbor! And let’s hope one day, we can all find a world void of hate.
John Lennon’s song Imagine was so profound…
“Imagine all the people, Living life in peace...”
Imagine peace in the Middle East!
I have hope!

eHarmony

I've only been in one serious relationship since my divorce...and that ended in August 2008. It set me back a little since the ending was very similar to my marriage. It seems I pick men that are willing to walk out and quit when things get hard for them. So my recent seclusion was partly overcoming this heartache. I usually need the alone time in situations like this, to cry, to talk to friends, listen to music (Rachael Yamagata's album "Elephants...Teeth Sinking into Heart" was the best break up album ever...it helped me get through it...big time), and mostly for self-reflection. I've learned a lot of things about myself, about what I want, and just life in general. The only problem is I started finding contentment in being alone. It is a good thing yet a scary thing just the same. I don't want to be alone my whole life...but I do love my own company (that was not intended to be a narcissistic comment, but I am great company).

So with heart healed and extremely guarded, I succumbed to online dating. I was never opposed to it. I just never thought it would come down to it. See, I would prefer meeting people in natural circumstances, chance, fate, or whatever you want to call it.

It was New Year's Eve, home alone, watching movies, and on the computer when I realized, as much as I enjoy a quiet night at home or movies by myself, I don't want this to become who I am (not long term). And the itch to socialize came back. I'm resolving to get back out there and socialize, date, and have a more personal life for ME. And eHarmony was my motivation, my kick in the ass!

So far it seems pretty interesting...to see them match you with people they think you are compatible with. I've been getting some good laughs. I've been communicating with a few, but have yet to meet face-to-face. I have to admit I am little anxious about that part of it. I'm ultimately looking for my life partner, but I want to have fun and take my time getting there. So we'll see. Que sera, sera!

In the meantime, to all my friends…keep sending the invites to all your outings…you might just start seeing me out again.

Before I go, let me leave you with this:
What are your New Year's Resolutions, if any?
What did you learn in 2008 that you will do differently in 2009?

Back in Blog

It's been almost a year since I last blogged seriously. And it's hard to ignore the writing juices and creative thoughts that started flowing in my head. So here I am...back to blogging.

I was able to transfer all my old blogs on here (2006 and 2007). Thankfully! As you can see, I didn't blog much in 2008. I was busy mostly painting instead...the newest form of expression for me. I love it.

So, this is just an introductory blog. I'll blog from time to time and hope you enjoy. Subscribe if you are interested or stop by once in a while. I hope my ramblings and what not are interesting enough to keep you coming back.


Before I go, let me leave you with this:
I am sad that football season is over for the Miami Dolphins. They had a great season and hope this is just the beginning of a great era.